What do you think about this? How do you feel when a friend asks to look after their kids? Is looking after a friends kid is fraught within danger?
Well, as you know I had major surgery recently and in many ways incapacitated. As a result, we have had offers from our community to help out with life; there have been offers of help with the shopping, just picking up the milk, or care for the Little Man.
This past week, our friend asked if they could take the Little Man for the morning as they were well aware of our current circumstances. Not wanting to be an imposition, I asked the Little Man if wanted to go for a playdate with our friends. His response was a resounding yes – someone else to play with is every 4 year olds dream isn’t it.
On the morning, the little man bounded into our friend’s car, with an enormous smile on his face as he waved goodbye. The morning was mine to rest as she would drop him back a couple of hours later.
It was shortly after the hour that the Little Man was expected that the call came. He’s had a fall and was ok. There was blood and ice was being used. They would be back shortly post an ice block, he was fine. Not a few minutes had passed when a new message came through, change of plans, they’re coming straight back now.
As soon as the boy sees me, the tears flow unabated. There was howling and sobbing. Unfortunately it was one of those accidents that even an Icy twist could not mend his wounds. Eventually he fell asleep in my arms, mouth still bleeding.
My poor friend, felt so bad that she stayed with us for the next couple of hours. She only left after the boy awoke to have a conversation about chewing gum that was stuck in her boy’s head, but that’s a story for another day. We spent the next few hours in front of the TV this seemed to make the world better!
Later that day, my friend texted to check on the Little Man, and said that she had been feeling sick about his accident all day. Here she was doing a good deed, that went south, not of her doing. From what I know as told by the Little Man – he slipped. Really she wasn’t to blame, but she did feel so bad!
We’ve since seen my friend and she still jokingly said any kids taken in her care, get locked in her house to play quietly. She mentioned to other friends how calm I was about the whole thing, with a crying child that I was talking casually about how much I liked her shoes, which I did! I was grateful for the time that I got to rest while the boy was out and really she would have had to have been everywhere to have stopped it.
Have you ever offered to care of you friend’s child and they get hurt under your care? or has your child been hurt whilst in the care of a friend? How did you react? What soothes your child when they get hurt?
PS the little Man has forgotten all about the incident already, and that very fat lip is back to it’s normal size now.